Yes, it's Thursday and yes, it's been a long time since I last posted. Sorry. As it's gotten warmer, I've spent more time outside in the evenings working in the yard, garden and playing with the kids. By the time I get inside, I'm beat and headed to bed.
This post grew first out of a comment I posted over at Kent Shaffer's site, Church Relevance on Youth and depression. Since I work with the Youth at our church, this topic stuck with me and I decided to use it as a Wednesday night discussion topic.
A recently released study by SAMHSA regarding depression and teens had some alarming data. You can go to the above link and read the report, but what I want to look at is one set of statistics.
Figure 1 Table. Percentages of Youths Aged 12 to 17 Who Experienced a Past Year Major Depressive Episode (MDE), by Age: 2004-2006 | Age | Percent |
| 12 | 4.1% |
| 13 | 6.2% |
| 14 | 7.9% |
| 15 | 9.7% |
| 16 | 11.5% |
| 17 | 11.5% |
Source: SAMHSA, 2004-2006 NSDUHs.
A large number of teens have had depressive episodes. What can we do to address this?
One very good solution, I believe, is Talk. Real simple. I work with the Youth at our church. It’s a strange phenomenon, but in our ever more connected world, I believe teens feel less connected. Although our Youth IM, SMS, blog, vlog, myspace, facebook, twitter, etc., I believe they’re missing out on true interaction. Effectively, these teens are "Disconnected in a Connected World. What does that mean?
Going back to my list of communication methods, teens may use all of these, but they have one thing in common. The communication is largely ONE WAY...outward. Youth are constantly stating what they are doing, what they are thinking, who and what they are thinking about, among other topics. They want someone to listen. They want someone to care. But, they get responses back don't they? Of course they do, but this interaction is still lacking the human-ness of active, personal listening. Active listening involves tone of voice, eye contact, facial expressions, and body language.
I believe that this is exactly what teens are yearning for. If they didn’t want to be heard they wouldn’t have a MySpace page or blog or twitter, etc. But I think too, they not only want to be heard, but they want someone to listen to them and provide appropriate feedback.
As my wife has told me plenty of times when she’s frustrated by something, “I just want you to listen. Don’t try to fix it, just listen.” That may be the best medicine of all.
My challenge this week? I'm sure you have a teen or college person in your life. Even though you may IM, SMS, blog or otherwise communicate with them, make a concerted effort to actively listen to them and what they have to say.
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